Hi CO - it struck me as odd that you went from giving two days of silent treatment (old you) to completely nothing but an angry tone of voice for one moment (new you) and forgetting about it.
The old you with the silent treatment - well, hopefully you understand that's a really immature and destructive way to communicate your feelings.
Don't let the new you try to act like you don't have negative feelings. Did you really come around to believing it was OK for her to be late that day? Because that doesn't mesh with your storming away as she pulled up, so maybe you should apologize for that and tell her you were stressed about being late for work. Or do you think your anger was appropriate when she was late (for example, if it's a pattern or if it's completely unacceptable at work for you to be late), then instead of sweeping it under the rug you should go back to it, not in an angry or punitive tone, but let her know that you felt really stressed when she was late, and ask her if she can make absolutely sure to be on time.
BTW, what happens if she's really-really late, or has an accident on the way? Do you have a backup plan, a sitter, or a neighbor who can help you out? You might brainstorm with your W so that you have a solution you can go to if she is late again.
Those are healthy responses to the anger you felt that day.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
