Good for you, CO. I do tend to see a few similarities in our respective situations. I would also like to think that after a lot of soul-searching, I am building a new me as well. I find myself not reacting to my W in ways that I used to. It's almost as if I have slowly started to establish a modicum of control over some of my old, bad habits. Granted, I still lose my sh*t when I get notes from her L or have to confront hard issues - but I keep that to myself or vent to friends. All that the W sees is level-headed and unemotional, which is a nice switch for her.
