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[kolja]

Yesterday actually turned out to be a pretty good one for ME (didn't talk to the wife after leaving for work in the morning, and she was gone when I got back).

It was TECHNICALLY a day off from work, but I've got a lot of roles I have to take over and I got a little behind in assuming them with the 2 week trip I was sent on. Still nowhere near as stressful as before, especially once I get up to speed. Since not many folks were around I got a LOT done and feel pretty good about it - and there were a couple other folks in, playing catch up too, so it's not like I was all by my lonesome.

I called the state licensing department to make sure that when my suspension was up and I went in to reinstate I wouldn't have any nasty surprises about a requirement I didn't know about. I was very pleased to find out that once my insurance company files the SR-22 paperwork, all I'll need is to pay the fines and show my military ID (in my state, if you're on active duty, your license never expires) and that's it - no tests or anything like that. Which is good because with 20 years of bad habits I feel like the driving test would be a sketchy experience

Then I went on to call the insurance company, more than a little nervous that they'd drop me. Not only did they not drop me, I don't even have to change my policy - I was already carrying enough coverage to satisfy the requirements and all that. My premium will go up a whopping $2 a month.

I'm VERY relieved that this is all wrapping up so it can stay in the past where it belongs. And since it played such a big part in our marriage problems, it's that much MORE relieving to be leaving it behind me. Who knows, it might even help my wife finally get past it - but of course that's up to here. Either way, its a great thing for me.

To top off my Friday when I got home, my copy of DB had arrived. I read almost half of it last night, underlining and taking notes along the way. It's empowering, enlightening and comforting so far. I'll probably finish the rest of it today.

Today, Saturday, is my wife's sister's bridal shower, and my wife is of course the maid of honor. As I was making myself breakfast I wondered if I should wish her well. There hadn't been any communication between us since Friday morning, when she came back to the house again while I was getting ready to leave for work (she was short when I said hello - probably because I'm not inclined to underwrite her walking away - but said 'you too' when I wished her a good day upon leaving). I wondered whether or not it would be too 'pursuing.' But I went ahead and sent a short TM telling her "Hey I just wanted to say that I hope the shower goes well and you have fun, I know you've worked really hard on it." Almost immediately, she replied 'thanks I appreciate that." I'm glad now that I sent it - it seems to have been a positive interaction and, since I left it at that and have moved on to the rest of my day, I don't THINK it was too pursuing.