Hi, I think the reason I started the thread was to encourage people to do what you suggested.
Let them go and do not get sucked in - or as you put it - don't run after that train! Put the energy into working on yourself - either sorting out your issues, or doing stuff you like and becoming the person you want to be.
Thinking of it as the crazy train just helps me to detach, stay detached and NOT get sucked in. Others have different strategies.
What is destablising is that many people here have known their MLC spouse a long time - I would say twenty years isn't unusual, and have usually spent most of their adult life with that person, who up until the MLC had core values that were aligned with ours.
It is hard when someone changes radically and relatively rapidly into someone else, not to get too close, and try and 'fix' what is oging on. We literally cannot believe it for a long time.
