Tad, I have to agree w/Bea...I don't like to see recently divorced people hit on when the ink isn't dry, much less the document filed away in the court house. I know that you want to move forward and have fun, but you need to take some time to really get to know yourself and get your feet back on solid ground. You are still dealing with the divorce outcome, a mad hatter and your children, plus the holidays. I would back off a bit on the dating and get your life shored up first. Dating can come along later. There will be plenty of wonderful women out there that would feel priviledged/honored to date you when your are emotionally ready.
Your xw is pulling your coat tail once again. Why would she be calling you at that hour unless she can't sleep? Guilt is eating away at her and she wants to make sure you are at home and not out dating. She wants to make sure that you are right where she left you and that you will always be there when she has the need to talk. She got her fix. Next, time, allow the call to go to voice mail. She's an adult and even though she's the mad hatter right now, she can still take care of your son when he's visting with her.
Also, they do have moments of clarity and that could be why she called, but you will never understand the workings of her mind while she is so messed up...it's just not worth trying to figure it out.
Tad, it's time to stop being so readily available to her. She needs to learn that divorce means a split legally. It's time to focus on you and your family. The holidays are upon us...what are you planning to do for the holidays?
Please try not to over analyze anything she says or does...it will drive you insane. They are drive by emotions and everyone knows that emotions can create all kinds of crazy making. It's time to take care of YOU!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
