Figured that I should update while all of this is fresh. Today was a very good day.
First off, I went out to the doc's and got my physical taken care of. I was not aware that I need to fast for my cholesterol check and ate Jack in the Box on the way there, so I have to come back in for that. But otherwise, I'm as healthy as an ox. My blood pressure was 110/62, which I'm told is really good. Also, I noticed that my weight was 210 -- about fifteen pounds lighter than I was when I measured earlier this year.
I then went to the credit union and talked to the rep who has been helping me out this whole time. What she told me basically proves that my W has everything very mixed-up for no reason. I had dropped this rep's card in the envelope when I sent it to W, writing directly on it, "CALL IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS." Yet despite W's confusion, she never called her. Also, as I understand it, we are pretty able to split the credit card debt between ourselves as long as we re-finance in our own names. WTF? What's going on in her head?
I stopped at Goodwill and bought a bunch of books for less than $20, then went to the mall and bought two new pairs of shoes. (When I got home, I threw out my only pair, which had lasted for nearly 2 years if I'm calculating correctly.)
After that, I met with the lawyer. He went through the legal S paperwork and said that basically everything was solid. Technically, W can go after my work IRA, but it's not worth much right now, so it wouldn't be worth the effort. Also, I doubt she remembers it at all. (I'm thinking about rolling that IRA over to my personal credit union just to be sure. Don't want her coming back after ten years when I've amassed thousands.)
I asked him about the furniture, the DVDs, and the kitchen stuff. He said that because none of that stuff was put down in the S paperwork and because neither of us can technically prove how anything was purchased, it's considered "joint property." He said that the best thing for us to do is to split it as politely as we can, as we are typically entitled to half of everything that was acquired during the M. It's not worth it for W to sue me for anything, and despite her arguments, she has no legal right to any of what I currently have.
So, basically, I'm feeling much less fearful of her power games. She can't really touch me. I realize that I'm very fortunate because of this, and I thank God that I came out with barely a scratch. (Financially, anyway. )
After I got home, I worked out, took a shower, ate some dinner, and now I'm here. My weekend's starting off great.
Also, as I understand it, we are pretty able to split the credit card debt between ourselves as long as we re-finance in our own names. WTF? What's going on in her head? 
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