Time to begin a new post. I know Auld Land Syne is hardly original, but it speaks volumes. Should old acquaintance be forgot . . . . In some of our cases, is it time to try harder to 'put the past behind us' in regard to our broken relationships and wayward spouses? I am moving up on 2 years from Bomb Date, and it has surely been the hardest 2 years of my life. The prevailing and wisest opinion is that we, as LBS, cannot fix our X's. Their MLC is THEIR MLC. Not ours. If we find ourselves divorced or facing divorce, it's time to re examine our stand and perhaps fade into the background, at least as far as their lives are concerned. This doesn't mean we have given up on them as persons, but that the R we had is dead and gone. Allow yourself to grieve. Then go on living. THAT, my friends is the conundrum we find ourselves in. HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO LIVE WITHOUT YOU, as the song says. Yet we have, and do. We forge new lives out of the ashes of our marriages. For our children, for our families, for ourselves, hopefully.
My hope, beginning this Christmas, not the New Year, is that next Christmas finds me a more joyful person. That I lose some of the baggage I've been carrying around for the last 2 years. TO GIVE MYSELF PERMISSION TO FORGIVE MYSELF, AS WELL AS X.
I hope the same for all my friends here on the Board, as well.
