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Update:

I think I have finally hit bottom. I have had it.

Sent W the necessary D papers yesterday. Am starting the process of removing her name from all accounts, etc. Talked to W on Wednesday, and she is very depressed, and feels in limbo, and is unable to get motivated to get a job. She told me that she could not confide in me nor depend on me, as that would be moving backward. I have consistently supported her emotionally and financially, but apparently that means very little. It seems quite clear she wants nothing to do with me, and could care less if I live or die.

Had dinner with our best friends last night, and they virtually insist I cut her off. She tells them she is getting involved with an old college boyfriend, who just left his common law wife after my W and he started talking this year. W told our friends this specifically so they would tell me, and they are royally irritated that she is using them. My W is leaving carnage everywhere she goes, and is pulling people down with her. She has given up everything she has, with little idea where she is going. But is clear that I mean nothing to her.

Today I realized I have hit bottom. No more depression. No more excessive self-medication. No more waking up at 3AM and staring at the ceiling. I need to save myself. I can no longer help her. She is on her own. I am done.

Thought you might want to know.