Interesting topic. When I was younger, I was always very dependent on my father (strong male role model) for protection, security, etc... During my college days, I went to a women's college and learned very quickly the benifits of independence, finacially and emotionally. I grew up a lot and really got to know myself and my needs. I met ex my senior year in college and he was always so attracted by my independence and driven personality. Then when mid-life crisis started, he stated many time how he was attracted to OW because she was meek and "needed him". He also said I would be alright alone and be able to handle him leaving without difficulty. When MLC started, I became needy and weak begging him to keep the family together. He found this repulsive and unattractive. Now I am back to my college days, very independent and happy with my life. Ex sees this confidence and does not know what to do.... it is confusing to him.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
