Instead of imagining that he's a player, try imagining that he's having thoughts just like you. "She seems nice, but it's long distance and I'm really not ready for a longterm relationship. I think I'll just go and have some fun, because I'm lonely."

Don't expect him to want you more than you want him. Imagine that he's a lonely human.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.