My 2 cents? When the entire truth came out for my sitch, I was very clear that I was not going to live with him if he continued with ow. I was not going to "kick him out" of the house, but he got the message that he would have to choose and if he chose her, he had to leave. It was a difficult balance. He took the day off from work and drove me to an island we used to go to when first dating to talk and decide. I suppose he needed to know if he had a chance with me. Ironically, ow called him while we were there and he said, "Not now!" One of his employees told me (later) that she was a basket case all that day at work. H said she started cutting herself. Friggin borderline.
Puh! Respect? It is a long time coming in the healing. I must be honest with you...at least for me it's been very difficult. You see such an ugly, nasty, pathetic side of them. How they can lead TWO women on and when there are kids involved? That much worse.
Hey, I love my H and I chose to take him back. It has not been easy. It would have been easier to split and start anew. I AM happy I stayed and it does get easier as time goes on. Your emotions WILL ambush you at times. He has to deal with it. I don't apologize as much anymore. Being in this section has helped me become more self-assured. Thanks to all of you who regularly post here. <<<<HUGS>>>>
Anyway, that is not where you are now. I will be here for you regardless of what you decide to do. I do think you are in a good place emotionally. Well....the best you can be considering the circumstances. It will help you stay strong and stick to your plan. Just be honest with yourself and you'll be OK.
I was curious as to what you would say to him if you could right now....?
M 55 H 58 M 24 T 29 S 22,21, 19 Bomb 4/10 It (A) really isn't about you 11/2013 We all have work to do
The truth will set you free, but it will almost kill you first.
