I spent all night with XW..........on the phone

[25yearsmlc]

when I hear someone saying that they have "no idea" why their m ended, or describe it as having been "all wonderful when out of the blue, BAM a WAS leaves!"...

well, it's one thing to hear that when it's new.

But if that is still the story they give out a year later, when they've had time to reflect and look within

AND they've learned zilch, then they probably have no capacity for insight, or are too afraid to look within (not brave enough to look in the mirror bodes poorly for them as partners,) OR they are deep in denial.

Those are factors fatal to good r's. I'd skip past that person...

Tad, I'm left with a prayer I heard at a group meeting when the speaker said that

"there are times when I have so much to pray/ask for, that I recall that God knows all this so rather than summing up all my needs and requests, I'll just say , 'please God, please'".

That's how I feel here on this thread Tad.

So much has been said to you for over a year. And a lot of it has been said literally a hundred times or more. You learn 3 things, then forget 2, or all 3, and start over.

You seem to re-learn if faster the next time but we are still here on this board with essentially the same problem...you won't detach from a toxic relationship

even in the face of brutal behavior, a divorce that has been finalized, batchit crazy mean behavior in front of and to your son's...

you let yourself get sucked in and you won't stop no matter what we say.

SO I'm just going to say "please Tad, Please....learn."


When you finally do, my prayer will be a one word, "THANKS!"