Make sure what she is saying in regards to titles and credit cards and such is Absolutely true. You need to protect yourself financially... ESPECIALLY..from a WAS.
Very good advice, Val. I'm already looking into it. What's weird is that I've spent so much time of my life trusting this woman, and now I'm in a place where I have to second-guess everything she says. It feels very strange.
Not too much to report. I have ramped up my exercise regimen; last night, despite the winter cold and the darkness, I threw on a yellow reflector vest and went for an amazing jog. It's getting easier as I keep it up! I also worked out in my apartment complex's "fitness center." I can feel and see myself getting stronger!
I really want to make working out a project. I've never been very happy with the way that I've looked; I used to feel very fat and unattractive growing up. Unfortunately, I used to enjoy neglecting exercise, stuffing my face with junk, and sitting around playing video games all day. Now, I'm at a place where I'm starting to dig exercise, I eat very healthy, and I can no longer afford video games. And I now have tons of time on my hands!
Work has been really good. We were audited recently, and I answered all of the auditor's questions correctly, so I felt great about that. There are also some great work-related GAL activities coming up.
I have been really keeping up my writing. The last few days, I've been writing anywhere from 700-1000 words a night. My new mantra: "Write at least 500 a day, even if it's garbage." The garbage eventually leads to the good stuff anyway.
I have a three-day weekend, so I'm planning to keep very busy. I have the doctor's appointment and the lawyer's appointment tomorrow; I also intend to buy some new shoes, as my current pair are almost two years old(!).
For whatever reason, my detachment has hit a temporary snag. I'm finding that I'm struggling with a lot of feelings of revulsion and anger at my W's A and what she's "doing over there." I think this might be because I always figured that her A would dry up by now given MWD's statement, "Most affairs end within six months." But the marker of month 6 is next week.
Of course, I understand that each sitch is unique and that there should be zero expectations; I just never thought that this thing would go this far. Maybe I'm frustrated because of that. And perhaps I'm still frustrated that my W tries to control me and keep tabs on me just the same. And STILL exhibits zero guilt, and STILL believes that I have no reason to feel the things that I do about her choices.
I'm planning on going out to the movies a lot in the next few months to watch all of the movies nominated for Best Picture at the Oscars. This will hurt as this became one of our favorite things to do this time of year (both W and I are big movie buffs), but I want to keep up the tradition for my own sake. (I also see it as a bit of a nose-thumbing toward OM. W described him as being wholly uninterested in the Oscars, so I don't see her successfully dragging him to these high-class art flicks. It sounds like all he likes is Johnny Depp movies and anime. )
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