You have gotten some excellent advice!! Here is my story:
In the past from dating to bomb, H always wanted sex. I could wake him up in the middle of the night. Anytime, he would NEVER say no. I said no alot. I felt loved that he wanted to ML to me all the time/anytime. We avg. about 2x/week.
Because of all of this I felt very secure in our R. I felt, as long as H gets it, it doesn't matter if he has to "beg" me.
Boy was I wrong. I think H was grasping at straws to keep his love for me. H later told me how rejected and unloved he felt. I NOW understand what he meant. I never got it before. I was truly being selfish and not meeting his needs. It was not intentional, I was just ignorant.
Now I am the HS drive person and he is the LSD one.
Some of the reasons I was not really interested in ML are: if he made me mad, I was feeling fat and didn't want him to see/feel the fat, I valued sleep more than sex, I did not want to put in the effort/focus it takes to have an "O."
