Quote: She said that this is the same old thing that she is the way she is and if I want it more go and find someone else on the side
Lee, what I think this means is that you haven't won her heart yet and it is a reaction to the pressure you are placing on her. I would recommend that you investigate the work of David Deida and get yourself a copy of The Way Of The Superior Man. I get the feeling that when you sense rejection from your W, that you are shutting down your heart. Women pick up on this and if you are leaving it shut for a period of time, it turns to resentment from the perceived distancing. It is a relevant theory which explains why your sitch is where it is at.
One of the suggestions I got from the book I recommended was to plan a romantic weekend and give W 15 minutes to pack her bag. The book says that under these circumstances, women act purely on love. At first my W seemed kind of angry but quickly settled in for the adventure. It was the first time in 19 years I saw pure love in my W and she wanted it all day long.
Suit
"It's better to have no spouse than have a bad spouse"
