W called to update me on the tax return stuff. Her message cut out so I called her back. Broke my own rule of waiting an hour..
Our conversation was pleasant enough with laughs and stuff. I'm a pretty upbeat person in general anymore so I don't really have to pretend.
I validated where I could and reassured her that I was going to be fair with everything. I already spent my half of the income tax money so it made sense that she got her share.
She was like.. "When do you leave again (I never said when to begin with).. maybe we can take care of it before you go".
I was like "I leave tomorrow."
Later on she was like "Maybe we can take care of it before your flight.. I don't know when that is... pause.... When are you flying out".
Like an idiot I answered "First thing". Doophf. Could I have played into that any more.
She said "Well we can take care of it when you get back into town". I said "Ok".
Then she went on and was like "the second half of the message was that now that you have the focus, we can separate insurances".
M: "The versa is in my name still". W: "It's in my name too". M: "Right.. but until it's only in your name, we are going to keep the insurance in both of our names so the car is covered for both of us". W: Paused "Fine. We'll just go to the bank once you get back into town" (didn't she already say that?)
Her tone changed immediately. She got off the phone pretty quickly.
She didn't mention anything about the icicles text.
*Sigh*
I think I did a fair job DBing and keeping my boundaries... but it doesn't make me feel good about them when she kinda gets p!ssy about it.
I'm also beginning to think my w is trying to control me. I guess only time will tell... but for some reason... I feel like I am fighting for myself hardcore.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
