A Bklyn tale

[BklynMom]

Still having a good week, its great to be super busy. I was able to help a friend of mine reconcile with her brother, she was so grateful for my help that it made me feel good inside. Funny, I used techniques from DB to help her with her sitch. The first thing I told her was slow down, dont answer his barbed email right away. Then I told her even if you dont agree with his whole position start your email with something you guys do agree on. They finally hugged last night. I guess this sitch showed me that my new way of conducting my life does work.

On to my story, I emailed my H today a calender of the next 2 weeks so he would know what events we have going on. I started the email with this "Just thought I would write out a little calender for the next week or two, so you knew what our general schedule looked like. Since your schedule is free, the girls should spend as much time with you as possible. so we can certainly cancel any activity including school (except dr appt). I also indicated when I usually have a babysitter either my mom or Lilly come, let me know if you are around to cover on those days. I know you are super busy at work so just get back to me whenever you can" I signed it "With Love"

Havent heard back but not really expecting anything today. I thought my email was pleasant, thou we dont email much I felt we needed to have a conversation about the logistics of the holidays. He has told me several times he wants us to have good communication (as he rips apart our family).

SIAS - And what do you mean when you say "I think my H would be happy to come over and he may think that it was nice of me to invite him since I know we are divorcing".

My H has announced to me on two occasions (Once in Sept & once in early Oct) that we are getting a D. I responded that I understand that he is moving forward with a D.

I believe he needs me to believe he is serious that we are getting D. That I need to hear him. Now that I accept the D I think it has opened the door every so slightly for him to say things to me like "I'm sorry" or "Nice pants".

I would invite him Christmas morning for the girls, I tend to think not inviting him would be better for me & DBing but I want my girls to get their Christmas wish.

Thanks everyone