H took my son to buy me a gift

[MrBond]

Okay, so your sitch is real. That means your problems are real. Personally I don't think you are ready to date. You're not doing yourself or the guy a favor by being so dependent.

I mentioned about how you condemn others for their actions whether real or imagined. You just did it again with the chiropractor. That's extremely unfair to him.

You seriously need to work on your trust issues. I get it that your dad left, your H left, etc. but it's not this guy. On top of that, it's none of your business if the OW is driving your H's car. Have you done anything...anything at all to work on your trust issues? Has your therapist worked on that at all?

Switching to another therapist isn't going to help just because your current one says that you should be weened off due to dependency issues. You can't get another therapist just because you disagree with the one that's been with you awhile.

I can honestly see things not going well with this new guy until you get those issues set straight.

"If i wait to deal with my own issues any longer i will be old and ugly and end up alone forever."

You haven't dealt with your issues at all. You've been reactive rather than proactive. Finding another guy is like putting a bandaid on your problems. In the end they will come up again like an open wound.