Never thought I'd be here......part 2

[antlers]

Here where we live, it's a 'no-fault' state, so nothing matters except that one person wants out of the marriage. Nothing else matters. The person who wants to end the marriage is able to benefit tremendously financially by doing so. The person who wants to save the marriage can get tremendously financially punished. That was the case with myself and there wasn't a damn thing I could do about it except take it square on the chin. I hired an expensive attorney, one who was known locally as a 'go getter'. It didn't matter. The law is the law. I got my ass kicked up between my shoulders. And it was done by someone who once professed undying love for me. It plain sucked!
On the other hand, I'm sure she felt justified. She had a lot of pain for a lot of years. I had promised to love and cherish her, and many times I didn't treat her like I did.
I believe that often we are not aware of the amount of pain that we cause them. And when they have an opportunity to really kick our ass...they do!