In the eye of my storm

[workinghardguy]

[quote\ If my W and I do not reconcile, there are plenty of things to embrace when you don't have to worry about anyone's input.[/quote]

Amen brother!

That was how I felt last night. W didn't show up for our family swim because she was busy with her friends. Ok. Well, then I get to decide that we're pushing back bedtime to have a little more fun and to stop for cookies on the way home. You didn't choose to participate and I really don't care much what you think anymore since you've made it clear you don't think much about me anyway.

There are upsides just as there are downsides... you just have to look for them.

[In_Shock]

that's so true. It's a matter of perspective. I've been prepping for W's moving out (she's still looking for places...picky, picky) and I keep telling myself all the things I can do with the house, etc.... there are definitely upsides to everything----- once we find one, it's important to HOLD ON to it!!!! hang in there LITB (and WHG too).

[LITB]

Thanks for stopping by WHG and IS.

I wanted to copy my update on 2step's thread over.

LITB - VERY nice to see you come around these parts. How are things with you? Did you move to NM yet? How are things going?

Things are beginning to fall into place for me. I haven’t moved to NM yet, but most of my belongings are already in storage down there.

I have interviewed and met with a contractor there 3 times since October and will be meeting with them again over the Christmas holiday. I’m hopeful that something will come to fruition at the beginning of the new year. I’m looking forward to having my kids every other week vs once a month for 2/3 days. Thankfully they seem to have made a decent transition.

My b-day happens to be the day after your XW’s b-day. While I was down there for Thanksgiving, my W, kids and MIL gave me early b-day cards. The one from the MIL was very nice. I had been working to overcome my animosity towards her as you may recall because I felt that she was part of the reason for my sitch. The card from her helped me come to the realization that it was solely my W’s decision. I’m glad to be rid of those feelings towards the MIL.

Oh and in my W’s card, she thanked me for being an amazing father. Quite the contrary to what was in her declaration for her ex-parte in July and apparently she does get my humor.

The D is on hold pending my relocating and new employment. No sense in getting it finalized only to have to revise the child support later.

In the meantime, I have picked up playing golf and plan on picking up another hobby or two after the holidays.

Hell, I gave a full blown update on your thread. It was longer than I had planned.

Thanks for asking 2step. Be well my friend.

[LITB]

And I wanted to share this passage that struck a chord with me, especially with the upcoming Christmas Holiday.

Romans 5
Peace and Hope

1 Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we[a] have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ,

2 through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we[b] boast in the hope of the glory of God.

3 Not only so, but we[c] also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance;

4 perseverance, character; and character, hope.

5 And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.

[♪CS♪]

Good to hear from you man!

Hope you catch you on the alt.

Peace!

[LITB]

Good to hear from you man!

Hope you catch you on the alt.

Peace!

Thanks Country.

Good to see you around and hope to catch you on the alt too.

Hope all is well with you and your little princess.

[jbnati]

Glad to see you out here again, LITB! Thanks for sharing the passage! Saw your update on 2step's thread. You're heading for a much better place, regardless of the final outcome!

[Redo]

Hi LITB:

Nice to hear from you man!
Great that your are moving closer to your kids. That really helps both you and your kids a lot.

[~ kd ~]

Hey LITB, caught your PS on Karma's thread.

Things are going well for me. Some of my biggest growth has been in the last two months and it is quite obvious, to me. I am close to 95% the old me, which sure feels great!

As far as my sitch, I've been waffling on the legal stuff. But I've committed to signing the SA, now. As things between my W and I remain exactly the same, I'm going to lock in my answer (which I feel is "fair" around custody) with the SA. The kids have always been my main concern.

I'm still vacillating on filing D after the SA is signed. I have a good idea why. I need to work through a few more things, there.

I've been trolling the board more than posting. But I've been keeping a close eye on all of our "group's" updates. It's been good to see the growth in all of us.

And it's been great to see your updates with the kids and your job prospect. My prayers for you over the holiday season that your hard work and effort provides success!

Be well!

[LITB]

Hey KD.

Glad to hear you are doing well. It is a great feeling to know that we have grown thru some very difficult times. Like we have a choice, right?

Thanks for the kind words and prayers.

Have a Merry Christmas my friend and enjoy your children.

Peace