Look, you can "what if" this and "what if" that all you want...
The truth is, you need to talk with your Lawyer and find out exactly what your rights are.
And I will tell you, that most Lawyers have a way of putting the brakes on these types of things if you tell them that is what you are looking to do.....(wink, wink)
Most of what happens, happens through a series of mediation meetings with each of you and your attorneys gathered around the table, addressing each of your issues.
What you need to do is think about the things you will not bend on, the things you will not bend on , and the things you will offer outright.
The things you will not bend on, protect yourself on those issues.
The things you will bend on, think about what you can offer to meet a reasonable agreement.
The things you will offer, then think about a reasonable way to offer them.
Letting your brain run around on a Hamster wheel is going to get you nowhere, pretty fast.
Quote:
M: I don't think the condo association has been getting your payments - got a nasty letter from them.
W: I can split the cost. Community property, your responsibility as well. If you remember correctly, you decided to hang on to that property despite my objections.
M: Half is perfectly fair. Good suggestion. The total balance is X, I will send over half of X today. If you can send the other half that should put this to bed. The good news is the cost dropped for 2012.
W: I don't have the money
M: I understand, I am running a little thin myself, too. Let me know if you will have it after your next pay period.
This is part of the emotional ties she has to you. Her emotions cannot separate the difference between what is rational, and what is emotional.
Don't look for this to change in her for quite a while.
I would recommend one of those decisions , to be a decision about this issue.
Look dude, I understand exactly how you are feeling.
I understand the anxiety that you are dealing with.
And I can tell you, that is DOES get better.
We go through this time of our lives , and make the MOST IMPORTANT decisions of our lives. I have been around too many people , that have made those decisions out of fear and anger, only to have them look back on them and realize that they could have done a whole lot better.
If you make decisions out of fear and anger, then you will live with the consequences made out of fear and anger. I want you to make decisions that you are proud of, even through a time that ripped you apart at the seams.
One thing that I have learned about one's character....Is that we never really know the depths of it, until we are up against it. That is part of dealing with this with Dignity, Honor, and Grace. Those are the actions that will carry you forward into your future. Those are the things you will teach your son.
No regrets Crimson.....
When you lay your head on your pillow at night, No regrets on how YOU handled this...
