Mr Bond's advice will enable you to get the benefit out of going to MC, but I don't believe you need to be there already in order to get there. I went to MC thinking it would show my H how wrong he was and make him want to fix our M. He went knowing it wouldn't change his mind but thinking he owed it to me.

Our very smart T was able to get my thinking on track quickly, but I went in with an open mind and desperate to find out what I could do to improve my situation. So I learned that I had part of the blame and could work on my side.

H learned that what he thought was unchangeable is changeable.

Choose a wise MC and you may learn why you need to forgive, and how to forgive, and how it's not all about W. You have to let it work and not resist it.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.