Dolphin, try to take back control over yourself. If you're really addicted to dating sites try taking a break from them for a while, set a date to go back but work on being happy in yourself for a while.

If you don't think you should go to dinner, cancel it (hurry, it's Thursday) or postpone it. If you haven't been out with him yet and he's out on dates that doesn't make him a player. But don't go on your first dinner with a guy and expect to be bf/gf and exclusive already. If that makes you feel rejected you might be too needy to date yet. Lonely OK I get that but vulnerable? Why? How? What can you do to repair that? A man can't fix it.

Try to think like your therapist so you learn to have confidence that you can take care of you.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.