Did I do the right thing?

[waiting4thedawn]

Again, Cadet, you are right! I do need a relationship with myself. My counselor is guiding me down that path right now. When I told her about my ex listing me as beneficiary, I began asking her what did she think he meant by doing this. She wisely said to me, "It doesn't matter what he means by it. We'll never know. We can spend a lot of time trying to figure that out and still not have an answer. However, the better question is what are you going to doing about this?" Wow! it hit me that I live my life worried about what others think...I mean I worry excessively about that, especially with my ex.

A whole new world has been opened to me. As soon as I realize I'm waiting on figuring out another person, I stop/shake myself and ask myself what do I want and how do I want to handle things without regard to their intentions. I weigh what feels right inside of me. That has been refreshing lately. I am no longer dependent on approval from another person. Am I free from this need yet??? Of course not, but boy have I gotten a brain flip in the past 2 weeks!

The advice given here is excellent! It's so helpful as I navigate through the next phase of all of this.

Thank you for responding to me!!!! Have a Merry Christmas, everyone!