My divorce has realy altered my relationship with my D19. She previously had a significant eating disorder (it's ALWYAS going to be there, she just seems to manage it better now)
She has the typical profile of an eating disroder girl: perfectionist, overachiever (4.3 GPA in high school)and the need to be loved by a mother who takes emotional hostages.
She wanted to go to a 52K school on the east coast, while I wanted her to go to the state university here at 21K; one of the best public universities in the U.S.
According to the divorce agreement, I am obligated to pay 50% of the in-state tuition, room and board at the highest priced state school.
Well, D19 DIDNT want to go to UCONN. She wanted to go to the 52K school, to which I replied: "It's not worth 52K". XW promptly stepped in and became the "SUPERHERO"..."If you want to go there, somehow, I'll find the money" Either her dad or her grandpa-boyfriend (He's 65, she's 50) footed the bill.
NOW, XW constantly lords this over D19, who won't do anything to upset the monster. Last year, XW told D19 "Money's tight. I don't know if you can go back to B&$$*@ College"
D19 immediately panics, and asks me for more money. I replied, no, transfer to UCONN. She flipped out on me, and became as self-centered as possible, and called me every anme in the book.
Somehow Mommy dearest "found" the money after I told her I wouldn't pay another cent for her to be an English major at a horribly overpriced school.
Just one example of how XW takes emotional hostages. It goes on and on.
Anyone out there have experience with an XS that uses the "Parenting Plan" as a weapon?
I have another question. Looks like Santa may bring FLTC a contempt charrge for a stocking stuffer.
