As for finding a counselor, find one that is marriage friendly. Do an Internet search for that term and you will find some resources to locate one close to you. I can not stress this enough. If you get a list together on ones in your area sit down with your W and decide together.
But please stay clear of ending EA as a condition for going. As for bringing it up in session, well feel out how it goes. If the counselor is worth anything it will come to the surface w/o having to do anything. As someone said on this MB - an affair is not the problem just a symptom of the problem. Or somthing to that effect.
Good luck and I'll keep you in my prayers that all will be good.
M 38 W 50 S 9, D 6 T 12 M 10 W's 1st EA 4/2007 stopped after confront W's 2nd EA 6/2010 Separated 7/2010 I bomb dropped 7/2010 MC 2/2011 - 3/2011 W bomb dropped 4/2011 Nothing filed or done
