I just finished typing the exact same words (I just don't know what to do) on my thread, for pretty much the same reason.
I really feel for you. Isn't this unbelievable?
Like your parents, I sometimes think that my H might be a really good con-man, who is great at deceiving people he wants to exploit. But I also think that, most likely, he is cyclothymic/bipolar and really cannot help the massive irritability and irrational excess that he displays.
And like you, I wonder, most of all, how on earth to keep DB'ing in the face of sheer bloody-minded avariciousness and nastiness from him concerning financial issues.
