Wife Left (Part 2)

[CO1978]

Tonight was at IC, didn't feel the best coming out. Therapist said I am on right path and everything on my end is looking good. I told him about W saying "I'm not coming back, it's over, I don't love you anymore." He said I need to start looking at "what if" she means that and look to see when I am ready to ask her where we stand and where are we headed. I told him I still want to fight for our marriage, and he said that is good, so its not time to ask that yet, but I should still prepare my mind for it. He said W's damage goes back a lot farther than just a month probably 1-2 years at least, and it may not be undone. She needs to get help and must want the help, and it may not include me. He does want to see the 2 of us together again (doubt W will want to). I know I do need to accept this may not work out, I am just not ready to yet. Thinking of future arrangements for S is not going to be good, obviously what we are doing right now wouldn't be valid if we got D. I don't go back until first week of January. I guess I DB until then. I am not close to wanting to quit and there for I will not bring up anything of our M. I will shut up and listen, validate her, ask "I understand how you feel, is there anything I can do to help?" or "do you want my opinion or do you want me to just listen". I am not going to "rescue" her or "fix" her problems. I will concentrate on ME and S. I think I feel a little down right now, because I do realize that M may be over, but I do know I can be happy without her.