I had stated earlier that I do OK with my anxiety so long as I don't hear from W's L. Well, got an e-mail from him today. It had been so quiet that I was almost duped into thinking that maybe, just maybe - she tapped the brakes a little. I guess not.
The e-mail went on to claim an amount of child support she was requesting, further challenge custody (plan vs. plan), and ask for a MASSIVE amount of money for W's legal fees. It also went on to state that I was not helping provide for common expenses with our S. The only example cited? I did not give her $16 for a bed rail that she had to purchase. That clearly looks past the mattress and box spring that I bought for her to solve the "bed" problem, all of the cold weather clothes I have purchased, the daycare expense that I pay - and so on. I do not like being positioned as a delinquent father - nothing could be further from the truth. Nothing. And over a $32 bed rail where I would have owed $16?? I also received a notification that she had not been paying the condo fee for her old condo that is now a rental property (upside down on it) since September. Both of our names are on it.
I feel like I have been kind, accommodating, calm, positive - I've been giving her space and time and not crowding - and then I get smacked in the face with this. My first instinct is to send a WTF text - but I know that is not the right thing. I feel a lot like I am being backed into a corner and I am giving love and respect to someone that is throwing a lawyer at me without regard. How do I keep this up? How do I respond? How do I not let anger get the best of me? How do I work to save my marriage when this is where my W is?? On the one hand she asks me to send pictures of the baby and let her know how he is doing, and on the other her L implies that I am not helping with expenses over $16.
25? Sandi2? Mach1? Anyone? I am in need of what to do here. Do I try to handle with W or just never breath a word to her about it and keep the positive face going?? I am really hurt and angry tonight. With all she could be asking for I could lose the house and a lot more. I own my responsibility in this, but I don't feel like I deserve to have a hammer fall on me this hard.
How do I draw a line of distinction between my wife and her lawyer? IS there a line of distinction? Is she directing him or is he directing her??
I need help, guidance and support on this one. This was a terrible day.
