I think I would change my email addresses, telephone numbers, or whatever info that can be gleaned from Google if I got an email like that. But first, I would reply and say, "I think you got the wrong email. Don't recall going on a date with anyone called Mike, and I hate classical music."
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
But there is a lot of helpful dating advice that you can gain from that email. I thought it was worth posting for a number of reasons. How far is too far? What does another person you go out with "owe" you? Anything?
And really - just as when we were all DBing our spouses like crazy - it all comes down to expectations, doesn't it.
I think Elvis got it right - "A little less talk and a little more action".
Don't overanalyze everything. Let it be. Find someone who really wants to go for coffee. And let the conversation flow naturally. So many people on the dating sites seem to be shopping for their "soul mate"and keep these long lists that no one could ever fill. I think some of the questioning goes way beyond what anyone could glean in a first date. Takes a lot of the mystique out of it.
Yeah, I certainly can overanalyze! Presently I'm not really looking for coffee dates until after Christmas, I'm gonna get through the Christmas season first, there's enough stress with that this year. As for Bookkeeper, we'll play for a bit but at some point we take action or end the question and aswer sessions. I've only been in touch with her for five days or so which is not a huge length of time and her questions are all reasonable. She answers any of mine quite readily. So we'll see. If we meet, we meet and if we don't, we don't!
Wii, please don't ever become Mike. I would run away as fast as I could if I saw Mike coming. Barb, I feel for your friend. I hope she has taken some precautions against this guy so readily finding her. Yikes!!
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Yes, this was not a friend of mine - just a forward from my sis. But we could relate although never had anything quite as intense as that. But it does show how you can go too far.
And Christmas can be an awkward time to meet but it can also be a fun and warm time too. Just do what seems right.
Well, Bookkeeper and I have been talking relationship. She asked me today "what did you learn from your last marriage?" I replied "I learned that couples have to put the relationship first. They need to find time for each other. They need to talk to each other. They need to say “I love you” every day! In the busy lives we all lead, and especially when children are young, it’s too easy to let all the above slide and take each other for granted. I learned never to take love for granted. Now what is your answer?" She wrote "Communication is very important to having a long and lasting relationship. We are not mind readers. Don't take each other for granted and to be assertive and yet loving. Self-respect is very important." OMG, a woman that says "we can't be mind readers" I think I'm in love lol. We also discussed what we each do when we have a bad day and what we each have to give to a relationship (both her questions). So in my last email I suggested we meet and see where it goes. We'll see what she says, if it's a no go then there better be a game plan or I'm pulling the plug! We've done the question and answer session for seven days now, it's time for her to put her money where her keyboard is! lol.
