PA - Confirmed - Blinkers are off.

[NYCPeter]

every positive action you take outweighs by at least ten times each mistake you make.

I've got to say - it doesn't feel that way, unless I am making 10 times more mistakes than positive actions.

learn to be quiet. You are far more concerned with being "right" than staying married.

Am I not to voice my opinion when I think W has done something inappropriate?

In the grand scheme of things, is that such a big deal? The woman is with your 9 y/o d A LOT, per you...she needs a break.

Yes - point taken, but why be secretive about it.

like all spouses who don't earn enough must do. Is she supposed to steal it from a bank?

She has over $100k in pre-marital accounts, I think it's unfair that all of my money is accounted for, but she feels the need to hide money from me. All pre-marital funds I had were either absorbed into a joint account early on, put down as a deposit for our house or in an IRA.

Peter, when you lose that parental voice of yours, your w MIGHT start to hear her own inner voice

Point taken - it does sound like a parent scolding. God I feel like I've wasted the last few months, I have worked on myself but keep backsliding, and the backsliding pushes her more to D.

If I was giving myself a score - it would be a D, I need to be an A if this is going to have any chance. I fear it's too late.