purgatory... stick with one post... your other post is a good start. details are important!
The changes you are making will make your life better with or without him. Don't stop working on what you need to do. You cannot force him to do anything. He has to come to his own conclusions.
Counseling is good! Sounds like you are on the right track. There is no quick fix here. It [censored], I know... but YOU CAN DO IT!!
When you are happy as an individual, you are in a better position to determine whether a partner enhances your happy life or weighs it down.
