Good morning all, Today is my 11th wedding anniversary. Sad day. After careful consideration, I took my DB Coach advice and sent her a very simple blank card and wrote inside "remembering you on this day" Gunny. Nothing showy or wordy, just letting her know that valued the date.
Sent it on Monday, don't know if she will get it in time, would be very surprised if I heard anything back, but did it for myself.
Hope everyone is doing well,
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
Hey Gunny! I actually has to think about what you posted for a couple days. I need to order that book you spoke of. I come from a long line of depressed people. My H too. I think some of us don't even know what normal looks like. I see other families, the way they act, fun thay have. We seen to try fun things, but never keep up with them. We buy fun toys, and they languish , unused. I plan activities, and then people sit around and watch TV instead.
My GAL activities are hard because I have that sad feeling so much. I have to really immerse myself into what I'm doing to get to happy. For some odd reason scheduling things and doing them on a regular basis makes me feel better. Maybe because it helps get me through my week.
How do you handle it? Nuts and Bolts.... It sounds like you are on the right track. Keep up the good work.
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
gunny, hang in there man. I think you handled the anniversary well with your W. Do something special and unique for yourself today.
I appreciated your introspection. It's good to be able to figure your contribution to the M problems. However, you are becoming so much more than the person you had been. Focus on moving forward in a positive way.
Hello Weni, Thank you for your post. I also find that scheduling things ahead of time is very helpful. I find that I do not like unstructured days, i.e. holidays, weekends, etc, that do not revolve around work. Typically, during the week i will go to work, then head to the gym, and then go home, eat, and head out to a meeting, (ACOA, Divorce Support, American Legion, etc.)Weekends are tougher, usually head down to the river or the canal to walk, ride, or run. Have met a few good people in the Divorce Support Groups, we sometimes socialize before and after meetings.
Like you, I am often sad. It comes and goes, changes on a dime. Workouts definately help. I do better at night than in the morning, but have not been sleeping well. How about you?
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
Gunny: Good move with the anniversary card. Good way to handle it. Keep on the path, my friend, there simply must be light at the end of this tunnel.....
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
