I think that the walkaways act on pure external gratification. some WASs are doing that^^^. But some have suffered for a long time with some pretty selfish LBSers. Then finally, unnoticed by the LBSer, the WAS just runs out of steam and lets go...
The challenge in either case for the lbser, is to look within and do THEIR OWN WORK and not keep blaming the WAS.
For one thing, sometimes the LBSer is more at fault than they first realized, and second, the blame game just doesn't help.
They don't want to do the hard work to look at themselves and their role in the demise of the R but think instead, "If I change house, car, partner, my life will be better."
We have the gift of being able to look inside and change, difficult and painful as it is. I'm sure we've all heard the phrase, "No matter where you go, there you are." Without doing the hard work the WA will have the same problems in the new house, new relationship.
We can decide to change or stay the same.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
