I've been reading other stories on here and it's so nice to know that I'm not alone (even though I logically knew this all ready). It's comforting to find some people in similar situations and see how they are handling things.

The hardest thing for me to do is detach. I see him every day in our house. I try to give as much space as possible within these walls:
- I don't wake up to have breakfast with him. I wait until he's left for work to come out of my room.
- I try not to be hanging out in the LR when he gets home (he doesn't get home until 8pm on most nights so I've already done dinner with the kids and put them to bed.) Instead, I'll hang out upstairs in my room so he can have 'alone time' to eat dinner and relax.
- I don't call/text him throughout the day.
- I don't send funny emails anymore (this was an ongoing things for both of us, he stopped doing it as well)
- I try to always look my best and 'act happy' when we do see each other (MC appointments, school events for my S.)

During the week it's easier to do these things because he's at work all day and we only cross paths for a few hours, but the weekends suck! For our S's sake, we still do a family breakfast on Saturday mornings since this has been a tradition since they were born. But I've been trying to find things to occupy myself to keep busy and let him have space.... sadly, most of the things I can come up with are projects around the house- so that doesn't take me away from him.

Hes's really angry/frustrated at all of this because he 'just wants to get away' and our finances don't allow that right now. I want to support him and respect his need for space, but how can I do that while we live in the same house?

M-31, H-31
T-9, M-7
S-6, s-20mth
sep 8/1/11
ILYNILWY 11/29/11
Creating separation papers.
Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12
H moves out 1.20.12