Peicing and hoping I'm doing the right thing.

[angel61]

Oh Freebird,

I don't know, I think it is for married people, thats true.

You know, I think piecing is where the LBS is in turn struggling withtheir feelings, and the WAS is more decided than the LBS.

The ball is back in our court and we could sabotage this.

All I could say is you just have to not think the worst of him. Doesn't mean you have to trust him yet, just give him the benefit of the doubt. I try to avoid thinking of trust at this point, I just go from day to day. I sort of see trust as a long term thing, and until we are fully open.

Your pain is something you could control.... you have the power to allow yourself to feel it, indulge in a pity party, and just let all your efforts go down the drain.

Concentrate on yourself, look at what you need to be thankful for, count your blessings, and try to think of how you can turn this painful experience into something positive. I recommend you read the is book " Making Love Last Forever" by Gary Smalley. It shows how big the role of anger and resentment is in causing love to fly out of the window.