Indecision and the affair continues (Part 2)

[Abbey]

That's one of the key points. The rational adult in our WAS isn't there. Some of us get bits and pieces, some not so much.

You mentioned flying by the seat of our pants. That's why I had to use both DB and Fortel's ideas, along with a bit of Not Just Friends. Where as some respond to going dim or dark in time, some of us actually have to "chase", or be loving to the point of putting our own selves in a very strange emotional place.

I think there's a lot of us who will be glad when Christmas is over, just because it causes stress even in healthy relationships. This can just make us sad and NUTS trying to juggle the alien brain of our spouses.

I pray every day for a lotto win.

As for us living in the reality. It really is a double edged sword. It IS the thing that often brings the alien brain back to us. We represent stability. We represent sanity. Right now, they don't want that... but they'll seek it when they hit that bottom or wall. Some of us even have our spouses clinging to some of it from us, even while being alien. Not healthy for us, but since there is no fix all one way to deal with the WAS, we get to have walk that tight rope.

I find that even getting flirted with, or having someone give you a "second look" is nice. It's not that I want another person in my life, but... it does feel nice to know that I can attract attention. All of us need that from time to time.

Abbey