"Why do you think that compromise in your relationship , made you less than perfect?"
I didn't think that compromise in and of itself made me less than perfect. If I am being honest, I guess I felt that accepting something (doesn't matter what) that didn't conform to what I thought it should be, something that was far from perfect, made me less than perfect. In reality, nothing will ever be perfect. And as I said in a previous post - imperfections and "messes" are proof that there are people in your life that love you. That was the case for me anyway. My W's clothes tossed recklessly around the floor in our bedroom meant that she was THERE, that we were together and that she was living happily.
Sorry I haven't replied sooner.....
How do(would) you view this differently , if she came home today ?
What steps would you take to change this ? Either in you or her ?
Can you accept this from her ? And not out of loneliness, out of love ?
I see this ( in the past) , as that you loved her , but only if she didn't do these things .
What I would like to see from you, is for you to define exactly what "unconditional love" means to you.....
And, are you capable of GIVING that ?
What things are you willing to live with, and what things are deal-breakers for you ?
