A Bklyn tale

[purgatory]

I'm new to the DB site... but I've been reading everyone's posts and your's struck a note with me. you posted this back in october:

"I was a fool. My H constantly wanted to hug me or kiss me & I would often push him away "Cant you see I am busy making dinner!! I dont have time for fun!" I did not accept his love. I am a fool! I thought we made love enough 3-4/mth but it was not enough for him, he wanted more and I rejected him on that level as well. Such a fool!"

That's exactly how I was. I have also struggled with anger and control issues. It was a relief to find that there was another woman out there that was dealing with these to- I've often thought that something was wrong with me. I've been in IC for the majority of the year, and I've made huge leaps and bounds to discovering where and why.... and how not to do it anymore. But my H doesn't want to see it, I feel like the damage is already done.

I feel silly making a comment on your thread so late in the game, but I was so happy to know that I could relate to another woman with similar issues I have done my first post (but it's really long) if you want to see my story and see if you have any suggestions/advice.