Carefully moving forward from H's mlc - ctflor

[AntoniaB]

Ctflor, I get the fear. My gf was in a 17 year rel. with a guy, who went MLC, and then after she detached, he came back with a new engagement ring, but he'd done "no work" , so to speak, and wanted that quick symbolic fix. She said no. She still resists him because she can't trust him.

I've been the recipient of "can we renew our vows", said in front of best friends, and then destroyed when he then 2 months later took OW to meet those friends as if our 23 year marriage never happened.

I don't know what to tell you other than this: 1. Your fears are 100% justifiable. 2. He might be telling the "truth" and not ever hurt you again. 3. He might not. 4. My meditation training says that we only have the present moment in our lives, and we must make the most of the present and not be shackled to the past and future. Therefore, what feels to YOU to be OK in the present is the way you should "go."

How do you feel RIGHT NOW???