I cannot control her, but I must keep going forward
Even though it hurts and I'm scared that moving forward means losing my w FOREVER. It has to be.. because I will no longer live in fear therefore holding me back from being the best Val I can be.
Those realizations are 'key' in you being a better and stronger person no matter what! Good for you for understanding these things.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.