I absolutely don't want to band aid either, but I need to hear it sometimes so thank you.
I am so confused often that I am afraid to make a move. DB coach said that I am too tentative and I need to find my confidence again. That my tentative approach won't be helpful in my situation.
I did feel better after talking to her, she knows about his drinking and past A. I asked her if he could be faking right now with his ILY or polite talk, trying to keep the peace for the kids or the holidays. Since the kids found out about A of years ago, he is trying not to rock the boat. DB coach said "don't try to read his mind re: why he is doing what he is doing, lets just acknowledge that he is doing it"
I think you are right, I imagine things that are or aren't happening. I am making myself nuts, and I need to stop it.
Each sitch is so different but the one thing that makes my sitch different and to me very difficult, is the not knowing. He never asked for S or D, which I am thankful for but it makes it that much more uneasy.
I'm glad to go to the doc's tomorrow since I am having trouble concentrating at work a bit, and need to pull it together already. I am sick of myself LOL.
I know eventually it will all play out, and will become more clear. That is the constant that I read in all of our sitch's. I am not alone in this stinkin club, we are all there or have been there. Time to get over myself.
