Hey CO1978, it's hard walking a fine line between helping someone that you love so deeply when they are clearly in need and giving them the space that they need in order to sort out their baggage, but it sounds like you are doing an amazing job of doing just that.
Try to hang in there. At some point this has got to get easier!
Take Care, Sunshine
M:(f) 35 W: 45 3 dogs and 2 cats T: 9 years 9/30/11 I love you, but I'm not in love with you OW confirmed 12/23/11