Hang in there 1978... remember it's a marathon not a sprint. Give W her space and let her figure it out, but don't rescue her. She picked a path, she needs to walk it. Trust me... I suck at this part and it keeps paying negative dividends since I don't do as I should.
And as far as the bed thing... obviously I don't know her financial situation or stresses. At the same time, our actions speak to our priorities. I would have to think she could find a used bed at a second-hand store or something for relatively cheap, and little kid mattresses aren't that much. But again, I don't know how tight cash is for her.
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD