Incidentally Antonia, i think one of the things we deal with during MLC is the issue of our ego. I don't think your xh will actually be happier with OW, but that isn't the point. He is on his journey and for now it is mainly still the crazy train
If i thought that my xh would have a happier and more fulfilled life, I have reached the point at which I would be cheering him from the sidelines. Yes, there would be some regrets, but I really and truly wish him well. Even though he does stupid and mean things to me whenever he gets the chance [Sigh!] I don't think he would if he were happy. I am becoming me, and that me is trying to be a big enough person to give others their space, and to wish them well. I want to thrive and I want others to do so.
