I don't think I've ever written to you before, but I've been reading along.
I really don't advocate jumping into another relationship while your marriage is in such turmoil - but I do believe that all experiences are for a reason - and this site, and the things I've learned since my marriage broke down have given me lots of evidence that absolutely everything that happens, when we released control, is to teach us something we need to learn.
You and I both know that the fellow you kissed the other night is unlikely to be a good long term partner for you. But what that experience gave you was the gift to remember that you are a desirable woman and there is a huge world out there that is so much more signficant than one husband in mid-life-crisis, sneaking over the country to spend time with his mistress ... who frankly he respects less than you if it's possible!!
You don't have to put up with his cake-eating. You'll be OK. You can take the time now to figure out what your boundaries are and implement them. He'll respect that Nblost. He'll have no choice but to make a decision - and I can guarantee you that is the last thing he wants to do now. He wants it all. He wants to have his OW and the fast free life he can have there with her, and he wants you waiting at home, keeping everything going - looking after all of his responsibilities. He's living the life!!!
I'm glad you had that experience - now use it to learn what it was sent to teach you.
Love and blessings, V
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
