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Here are some great Scripture resources that a friend just sent me:

Realize that you are powerless to change this situation!

Only God is able to make the necessary changes in you and in your spouse. We are good at manipulating our circumstances, but if we attempt to change things by manipulation, then we must continue the manipulation to attain the desired response we seek. It is a never-ending game of "tit for tat."


Pray. Just tell God what's in your heart. He knows it anyway. However, as you pray, you will begin to see yourself more clearly. Prayer opens up a powerful door to heaven. Awesome changes will begin to happen and the burdens will slowly lift.

• “May your eyes be open to your servant’s plea and to the plea of your people Israel, and may you listen to them whenever they cry out to you.” 1 Kings 8:52

• “The LORD has heard my cry for mercy; the LORD accepts my prayer.” Psalm 6:9

• “You who answer prayer, to you all people will come.” Psalm 65:2

• “LORD, you are the God who saves me; day and night I cry out to you. May my prayer come before you; turn your ear to my cry.” Psalm 88:1-2

• “He will respond to the prayer of the destitute; he will not despise their plea.” Psalm 102:17

• “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.” Matthew 7:7-8

• “Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up.” Luke 18:1


Seek God. God wants you to want Him more than you want your marriage restored. Your transformation will come when you seek an encounter with God for who He is, not simply to fix your circumstances.

• “It is God who arms me with strength and keeps my way secure.” 2 Samuel 22:33

• “Open my eyes that I may see wonderful things in your law.” Psalm 119:18,

• “Teach me your way, LORD; lead me in a straight path because of my oppressors.” Psalm 27:11

• “You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will take me into glory.” Psalm 73:24

• “This is what the LORD says: “Stand at the crossroads and look; ask for the ancient paths, ask where the good way is, and walk in it, and you will find rest for your souls. But you said, ‘We will not walk in it.’ Jeremiah 6:16

• “When Jesus spoke again to the people, he said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” John 8:12

• “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. 6 But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.” James 1:5-6


Let God's Word infiltrate your life. God will change you. Stop blaming others and making excuses. We, alone, are responsible for how we act - and react - to situations. No one can make us do or act a specific way. Get to the point where you are tired of being unhappy because of what someone else is doing!

• “Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” James 4:17

• “In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead. But someone will say, “You have faith; I have deeds.” Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by my deeds. James 2:17-18

• “Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.” James 1:22

• “Pay attention and turn your ear to the sayings of the wise; apply your heart to what I teach,” Proverbs 22:17

• “Apply your heart to instruction and your ears to words of knowledge.” Proverbs 23:12

• ” turning your ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding— “ Proverbs 2:2


Always, always check your motives! God looks at your heart. Do not do anything out of selfishness or with expectations from anyone but God. He is the only one who promises never to let us down.

• “You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. 3 When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. James 4:2-3

• “And you, my son Solomon, acknowledge the God of your father, and serve him with wholehearted devotion and with a willing mind, for the LORD searches every heart and understands every desire and every thought. If you seek him, he will be found by you; but if you forsake him, he will reject you forever. 1 Chronicles 28:9

• “All a person’s ways seem pure to them, but motives are weighed by the LORD.” Proverbs 16:2

• “Therefore judge nothing before the appointed time; wait until the Lord comes. He will bring to light what is hidden in darkness and will expose the motives of the heart. At that time each will receive their praise from God.” 1Corinthians 4:5


Let go, and let God. Disconnect yourself from your wayward spouse. Do not let what they do/don't do, say/don't say determine your own attitudes or emotions. You may have to do this many times, but make it a continuous surrender to His Will.

• ” being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” Philippians 1:6

• ” And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19

• “For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving,” 1Timothy 4:4

• “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28