Peicing and hoping I'm doing the right thing.

[FreeBird0120]

Freebird, give him time. It took time to get to this point, it will take him time to get out of it. Remember, he chose you, he came back.

I think it is a valid point that during the early times of reconciliation, we should not rock the boat too much or else it will fail. Do not let yourself have too much expectations, but set boundaries in a gentle way. Remember you now have time, so in your mind, tell yourself that you will slowly make your way through. He did choose you, so that means in the end that you are the important one. He made a mistake, and realized it, and came back.

I haven't read your sitch but I just wanted to post to support you and share that we all have those feelings of insecurity, especially when OW is involved. I am struggling too, read my sitch as well here in piecing.

Once we have made the decision to take them back, we have to forgive them.

Just wondering, would you and your H be open to doing Retrouvaille? It is working wonders on our relationship.

Hello Angel:
Yes I have read your sitch...it's pretty similar to mine in some ways. Do you ever wonder how all of this happened? One minute you're secure in the relationship and think to yourself, "Nothing or no one could ever sever what we have", and the next thing you know your whole world seems turned up-side-down and your don't know which way is up or down.

I am really trying hard to give him time. I'm just feeling so demolished right now. He called me this morning from work and said he wasn't feeling good, and was probably going to leave work early. The first thing that came to my head was, today is OW only day off. Has he contacted her and made plans to meet with her?? My mind just goes to those places and I can't breathe sometimes...

I asked him this morning if he'd fallen back in love with me...(I know such a HUGE backslide), but I just feel like I need to know where I stand. Yes I'm back home because he wanted us home, yes he's been trying to be more affectionate and patient, yes he stated he'd made his decision and had chosen me...so why do I feel the need to mess everything up because I feel like I'm losing my mind??

She was so much more exciting for him. They had so much to talk about. They seemed happy. Maybe still are happy...who knows...Anyways, his answer came after a little giggle and said, "Wow random question asker...YES...I'm here aren't I??"

Not sure how to take his answer, but whatever...

Ready for all of your 2x4's...I know I so desperately need them...and I promise not to be too sensitive with your comments, I just really need to get my head on straight because I feel like I'm losing it!!! HELP!!

Oh and Angel thanks again!! BIG HUGS!!