My W was always into me getting her little gifts that would cheer her up. One of things I did not fulfill for her was that over the years I didn't do that enough for her and she felt hurt. I realize that and started doing it again because I could see that it was one way we connected, it would make her insanely happy (like a little kid getting a lollipop).
But of course we are in this sitch and we are where we are at the moment. Wise counsel here says that me doing that now is a form of pursuit and is not good for DB'ing. It is a form of pursuit for sure.
One of the little gifts that she has always likes is when I leave flowers somewhere in the house in a vase and she would eventually find it. A while back I had done that and some of you kindly shared with me your concern that this is not good for DB'ing.
Then yesterday I get a text from her out of the blue telling me how she thought the last arrangement I left for her is one of the most beautiful one's ever.
Now, I'm confused!!!!!! I want to do this right but don't want to disappoint her if I stop this type of thing.
