Everything has a season

[JustStunned]

@ BeingMe I was present and involved as much as allowed during our children’s births. My son will be also, IMO as he should be. My DIL is a Marine also, an Iraq vet recently separated after duty in the lioness program.

Journaling When the emotions are removed and one can stand back surveying the landscape and drama playing out, a different perspective becomes apparent. I am trying to be analytical about this. I am trying not to project or rewrite history. Trying to remember and observe.

So her fantasy is not going as planned. She has abandoned pretty much everything and everyone that ever mattered to her. The only people she hasn’t turned her back upon are the family members that supported and encouraged her abandonment of us. The line through her paternal aunt.

There always was a schism there driven from her paternal grandparent’s interactions with her mother.

Noting this may become important, but none of this is productive now. I need to chart a course through this morass that brings me to open water intact and ready to sail. She is only damaging herself and her relationships to family and our kids. She does not realize she and her actions are the root causes, perhaps she never will. I have no energy to waste here. I see no benefit to be had from the expended effort.

So I will keep on keeping on. “Nod to VAL”